TRANSCRIPT from the Christian Life Coach Collective
Podcast Episode: #189
Okay, we're back in the Greenhouse series and today we're talking about stage one, your root system. You've got to plant a seed so that it's in good soil and it has a chance at starting to develop a root system which will ultimately begin to grow upwards out of the soil. Now, if you focus on the fruit too soon, you're going to lack the root system. You need to become a tree that can bear the weight of your calling and withstand the winds that will surely blow.
Let's talk about the roots that we need to focus on developing when you're becoming a coach or starting a business or growing as a coach-preneur. So first, I want to encourage you to let this Greenhouse series of episodes be like a roadmap for you, because it's hugely valuable to see it from a macro viewpoint-vantage point so you can zoom in when it's the right time. You go micro when you need to. You don't have to do it sooner. You can do it later, at the right time.
Now one disclaimer- if you're the kind of person (this is a moment of tough love so some of you can tune it out, but you know if you need to listen) if you're the kind of person who's resistant to being told what to do, if you are not coachable, if you question anything you haven't figured out on your own, if you like to be a lone survivor on an island- at least until you decide who you want to invite to approach the beach, if you enjoy pioneering simply for the sake of never being held to your commitments, I'm going to encourage you to do two things.
Number one, ask yourself ‘Gee wiz, how does Laura know that about me? Is she like that?’ And number two, ask yourself if you really want to stay stuck and go it alone and continue duct taping your dreams together with a bunch of freebies that add up to nothing, because you're not willing to make an investment, because you decided a long time ago that you can't make an investment (which I would coach you through, because I don't believe it and ask me how I know).
Are you wanting to play small on your own little independent ball field because you don't have a team? And no team means no game. No game means no win, and the option you have is to treat me/see me as your team player, who wants to support you, like a part of the team. Let me be Coach Laura. Let me support you while you're on the bench, when you're up to bat, when you're running base to base, or you're out in the outfield waiting for something, ‘please send a ball my way so I can show them that I really can catch’, or when you're in the locker room feeling all the big emotions from losing some and winning some.
If you can just see me as a team player, like a coach on the team or even another player who has been playing longer than you, please do that. Just change your paradigm about it instead of looking at it like I'm telling you what you have to do and what you can't do because I'm not doing that.
I'm really just here to give you a roadmap, to guide you, literally to educate you about the map from point A to point B. You have a different point A and a different point B than anybody else out there. But I can tell you that point A to point B for anybody starting a business generally starts at point A and ends at point B. Is that too simplistic? It's like the gospel. It's actually that simple. You have to go from point A to point B and, yes, what you're going to find between those two points is different in the specifics, but you're still doing the same thing to some degree. It’s generalized.
Now, if I'm just a team player in your eyes, could you, would you be willing to sit your questioning/ resistant/ survivalist/ pioneering-self down and just take a look at the map I'm laying out throughout this series. See if it just makes sense to you before you dismiss it. (You know, Momma Bear just shows up every now and then).
When you want to become a coach, this is what your root systems need to be- I'm laying out what to start doing
Root #1- Find spaces and places to go get educated and encouraged about coaching.
I would say this includes getting coached yourself, but also go read all the books and listen to the podcasts and watch the videos. Invest in a training program. Now, mind you, I'm not telling you that that necessarily includes getting certified in this stage, but that's something we'll talk about when we start to discuss mature trees and fruit in a different stage. That doesn't mean you can't, but I'm just telling you it's not a focus that you must have right now in order to grow and be successful and get good results.
Now, why is education a root you need? Well, because if you don't really know anything about coaching and the opportunities of it, the industry, the ways it can be done, the value it can offer, the transformation, the way you could choose to show up as a coach, and also the ways that you can help or hinder the reputation of the coaching industry, etc., then how will you know you want to be a coach, how are you gonna believe in the value of it, how are you gonna walk it out with excellence and how will you ever produce good fruit? Education is a foundational root, otherwise I wouldn't really have this podcast.
Root #2- Research yourself.
Yes, research and development on subject. Gain awareness about your own life, your skills, your stories and your successes.
I have a free downloadable workbook for this. It's actually called Digging for Gold. I created it because a lot of my clients really struggle to identify the gold that's already inside of them. They’re kind of think like, ‘I've got to go find gold, I need to go copy gold, I need to go make gold’. And I'm telling you, God has already equipped you for everything that you need to do what He called you to.
So let's go find the gold that's already there, because it's covered up by rocks and mud. The world has splashed mud on it, the enemy has come and written terrible things on it in magic marker. You have tried to cover it up, but it is in there. You just gotta go dig in for it with open-mindedness, because there are so many voices out there telling you to come up with a niche that will make you the most money and all of these different things, but I want to help you really figure out what and who you're really CALLED to.
So the Digging for Gold workbook is actually about discovering your core message. It’s a a series of questions, like a treasure hunt for you to go find out what is inside of you and develop that into a core message, and then you take that info and turn your core message into a solution for problems that you're called to bring hope to, and then you just have to figure out who those people are that have that problem. It's actually a really simple formula.
So why is self-awareness about you a root? Because by digging for what's already inside of you and polishing it, you're actually going to show up authentically and use the ‘original design of you’ to share the character and nature of your father to the world around you through your coaching and through your business. So your skills, stories and successes actually reveal a life that God knows everything about, wants to use, and it can bring healing and hope to others through your coaching business.
So grab the Digging for Gold workbook now and dig in, then start polishing what's already shining. It's going to point to your niche in coaching. It's going to point to your ideal audience, your ideal client. It's going to point you in the right direction. And you're not going to know completely 100% for sure until you actually work with those people and get super dialed in. That is a long time from now. I'm not saying months either, I'm going to tell you I'm still dialing it in. I think it's an ever-evolving process and then whatever you add to your knowledge, your experience and your growth is going to help you even more to dial in who you're working with and get very specific. But you start out more general because you're taking imperfect action. It's absolutely necessary.
Your niche in coaching is where your coaching solution meets the problem you can solve with it and the people who have the problem and need your guidance.
Root #3- You have to go after clarity, become intentional, develop a habit of mindfulness and get focused on the right thing and the right time.
So remember there are there is a world full of coaches and coaching styles and coaching offers and coaching niches and coaching businesses and coaching clients. You do not have to pigeonhole yourself because you think that the first thing you come across is the end-all.
It's the power of the first mention. If I am the first person you've ever heard talk about life coaching, then I'm influencing everything you believe about life coaching. You don't even notice it, but I am the first person who ever mentioned it to you, so you're hugely influenced by what I say about it. If the first person that ever tells you about life coaching tells you they think it's a hoax, that it's not the second fastest growing industry today around the world, or they tell you it's stupid and meaningless or maybe they say something stupid to you …
(you know I don't say stupid, so I'm sorry, I let it slip, but I'm not gonna edit it because sometimes truth is told in jest or accidents)
… maybe somebody told you that ‘those who can't do- teach’, or ‘those who can't play- coach’. Well, that is a lie from the pit of hell, because there are a lot of teachers out there and you know who else is who are amazing teachers and coaches? Moms and dads. We are called to teach and coach our kids. Spiritual moms and dads. We teach and coach. We are guides to people, and the only reason there is a player out there, the only reason somebody is doing anything, is because somebody else taught them and somebody else guided them.
So that's what I have to say to those people. People are not stupid, but maybe somethings that they say is stupid. I think that's the right word is ignorant, it means you just don't know any better, right? Okay, there we go. Or foolishness. Okay, I'm obviously digressing …
Back to #3, I’m gonna tell you to go keep exploring and get curious and become a lifelong learner in the area of your passion.
Why are clarity, intention, mindfulness and focus roots that you really need? Well, because it's easy to find one thing that somebody else does and try to copy it. It's easy to fall into traps of somebody else's way that you have decided is supposed to be your way. It's easy to get stuck thinking you have to go do a ton of things that you don't need to do yet and it's super easy to drive yourself into doing things just to be doing something and spinning your wheels in the mud.
You need clarity, intention, mindfulness and focus so you can grow strong now and withstand the storm later. Make sure that Called to Coach Webinar is on your calendar. It's free, September 6th at 1 pm Eastern time and you can hang out with me and a bunch of other people who want to know how to become coach-preneurs.
Root #4- Tell people about the desire and the dream you have to coach.
Talk about it with anybody who will listen. If you bore them, that's okay. You're processing all of your people’s stuff. Everybody processes their dreams and desires with you, especially because you're called to coach. They find you and they want to talk to you. They want to debrief, they want to share everything.
Well, it's your turn. I say go do it. Talk about it with anybody who will listen. Talk about it to people who won't listen. If you’ve got a baby, you've got a dog, it doesn't matter- go talk to them. You're going to find out a lot about what you think by talking it out. Record yourself, journal it, do anything that you have to do. Go find Facebook groups of coaches. Glean from them. Have like-directed conversations with people who are not sick of hearing you talk about it at the dinner table. Tell all the people you are becoming a coach. Tell the mirror you're becoming a coach.
And it doesn't mean that you have to be in a training or with clients all of the time to say, ‘I'm becoming a coach’. You just have to set your intention on becoming one, because that immediately puts you in position to become one, right?
So why is your desire and dream a root you need? Well, because a hope deferred makes the heart sick. That's what it says in Proverbs 1312. Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a dream fulfilled is a tree of life. Look at that! A dream fulfilled becomes a tree, and not just any tree- a tree of LIFE! And I bet that tree was sown in a greenhouse:) You knew I was going to say that. So please just start saying it out loud and talking to Jesus about it.
Journal, document, dream about it. Nurture the dream, nourish your hope. Educate yourself, encourage yourself, tell yourself this is possible. Tell yourself, remind yourself. Hear Coach Laura’s voice in your soul saying, ‘What is in your heart is available to you. You are called to this. Go, delight yourself in the Lord and He's going to give you the desires of your heart.’ But remember that delighting yourself in Him is the first part of that promise. Go, do that. He's going to give you the desires of your heart. Lean into Him.
Root #5- Go become faithful to do well with what you have in your hand.
Don't bury your talents. And start practicing by taking imperfect action. It looks like inviting people to let you practice coaching them. It is truly the best way to build your coaching business. You have to first determine if coaching right for you, what kind of coach you want to be, who you want to coach, what you want to coach on, what you're already able to coach on, what you need to learn in order to coach on something and, ultimately, is this the right journey in calling for you.
So why are faithfulness, practicing and action-taking important roots? Because you really won't know anything about coaching until you do it. If you think about coaching, build a website, create an offer and attach it to an intake form, contract and scheduling link, but you haven't coached anybody, you're not learning about coaching or about who you are as a coach. You can literally only do that through coaching people. Ask me how I know. So go do this on purpose and be intentional about it, because otherwise you have to recognize that your true goals are to be comfortable and do passive things without getting your feet wet, without risking rejection, and without doing the real work of becoming a coach, which means you have to coach people. If you're not coaching people, then you have a hobby of setting up a business that doesn't make money, and you know I'm momma-bearing you when I talk like that because I love you.
Root #6- Start praying and give this whole thing to the Lord.
Simply foundational.
Why are prayer and surrender the roots that you need? Because I can promise this journey is more amazing than you can imagine when you hire God as your CEO, because He's the best leader, gardener, boss, bookkeeper there could be. So don't waste time here. I'm a hire slow and fire fast kind of girl, but not in this case. Make Him Lord of your life and your business ASAP and in faith.
Go put your foot on the gas pedal, because He's a green light God who wants you to walk with Him, not sit at the light waiting for Him to come behind you and push your car into the intersection. Can you hear me honking behind you? That's me in your soul, saying, ‘Hey, it's me. I can see that the light is green and I understand your concerns, your fears, your worries about stepping on the gas, but I'm telling you that God's with you in the car and if He does say no, He's gonna tell you and make that red light obvious. You're not gonna have peace about it.’
But if you want to just blame the things you know on the road the bumps on the side of the road, the unfortunate findings that you find on the road, the trash, the yield signs, all of the signs saying that there's construction, all of the things that you can run into on the road, all the detours… If you want to blame them for why you can't go forward, well, you're gonna end up pulling over because you're gonna blame those things. You're gonna say, ‘Is this God telling me to stop?’
Well I want you to actually ask Him, look over at Him in the passenger seat and say, ‘Am I really supposed to stop or am I supposed to trust that You're in the passenger seat with me and You're gonna help me find my way around these obstacles and detours and help me not crash?’
Instead of making excuses because you're afraid of crashing or you're afraid of hydroplaning and you just never want to get in the car- just ask Him to help you figure out if you are making excuses and if your soul's desire is really to go back to bed where you're safe and comfy. When the Lord is with you, you can tap into peace, regardless of obstacles, walls, detours, attacks, storms.
You've got this friend. He equips you for your calling and, no matter what you're called to, you will be required to take action to walk in it, because nobody else is gonna make it happen for you. God's not in the business of doing things without you. He loves being with you, right where you are in the middle of your process. So what I'm telling you is that these actually should be your first step. So take note.
To recap:
#1 Get educated about coaching, all the things.
#2 Figure out what your life skills, stories and successes are and what they can offer. So remember to go grab the Digging for Gold Workbook and the show notes.
#3 Go hard after clarity, intention, mindfulness and focus, and I'm hoping these episodes in the Greenhouse series are gonna help you do that.
#4 Share your dream with everybody. Sing about it from the rooftops.
#5 Be faithful and start practicing coaching.
#6 Last but not least, obviously, pray about it and continually surrender it to the Lord. Let him walk with you.
Okay, bless you, and remember God loves you. I am for you, so is He. You can do all things through Christ. He's the one strengthening you, and look over in the passenger seat because He is right there. I hope that you loved this article and you feel challenged, inspired and encouraged.
If you're a coach or you wanna be one, jump into the Christian Life Coach Collective Facebook group so we can connect over there and to work with me, grab the links in the show notes to get quick clarity about your calling as a coach and entrepreneur, as well as how to get trained as a coach with Sterling and Stone and start your own business.
Bless you, friend!
Show notes:
In today’s episode: BUSINESS & FOUNDATIONS
Ever want to just get to your calling to coach but felt stuck on how to begin? This episode of the Greenhouse series is your ultimate guide to building a strong root system for a successful coaching career. We are talking about getting yourself educated in the coaching industry, doing introspective research and inviting others to let you develop your coaching skills.
Becoming a coachpreneur demands being coachable, taking action, and remaining faithful. As someone who's walked this path, I’m giving you details of where to start and what to do.
***VIParts of this episode to refer to: SIGN UP FOR THE FREE CALLED TO COACH WEBINAR- 9/6 @ 1pm EDT Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a dream fulfilled is a tree of life. Prov 13:12 Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4 Want to learn more about your purpose, calling, and core message? Grab the Digging for Gold Workbook Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a dream fulfilled is a tree of life. Prov 13:12 Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4 For the love of money is the root of all kinds of evil. And some people, craving money, have wandered from the true faith and pierced themselves with many sorrows. Tim 6:10 1 get educated; 2 figure out what your life skills, stories, and successes can offer (remember to grab the digging for gold workbook); 3 go hard after clarity, intention, mindfulness and focus; 4 share your dream with everyone; 5 be faithful and start practicing coaching; and last but not least, 6 pray about it and continually surrender it to the Lord. Welcome to the Christian Life Coach Collective! 🔔 Make sure you subscribe & follow the show! This is THE place for you to learn about Spirit-led coaching, strategies, foundations, training, and personal development. Grab your free Coach's Mistake Evasion Manual to find out what NOT to do when starting your coaching practice and business! Want clarity about your calling, niche, or ideal client? Grab your QUICK CLARITY session today. Schedule your FREE Possibility Call —> HERE Join the Coaching FB Community —> HERE Get trained and certified as a Christian Life Coach —> HERE Work with me —> HERE Find me @lauramalonessm on IG —> HERE I’D BE SO GRATEFUL IF YOU LEAVE A WRITTEN REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS FOR ME ~ THANKS IN ADVANCE!