The Path to Becoming the Life Coach You Were Born to Be

I was sitting across from a friend at my kitchen table many years ago, listening to her pour out her heart.

She was stuck. She didn’t know what to do next. She didn’t feel hopeful, didn’t feel empowered, and didn’t know how to get vision for what was possible.

But, I realized, I could see the road ahead for her. Not because I had lived her exact story, but because I knew how to help her untangle it and take a step forward.

The problem? Back then, I didn’t have a framework. I didn’t have a process or a language for what I was doing.

I just hoped that my encouragement would stick… that she’d take what I said and actually do something with it.

And if I’m honest, I walked away wondering if I’d really helped at all.

Looking back now, I can see that was one of the first moments God was telling me,

"This is what I made you to do."

That conversation taught me something important:

Having a heart to help people is beautiful… but it’s not the same as having the skills and tools to help them consistently and effectively.

When you’re called to coach, it’s not just about good intentions.

It’s about knowing how to listen differently, ask the right questions, and walk with someone through their process, so they don’t just feel heard, they actually change.

Training gives you the structure and skill to do that every time.

It gives you confidence. It gives your clients clarity. And it gives you a way to serve that doesn’t burn you out or leave you wondering if it “worked.”

Proverbs 20:5 (CSB) says,

“Counsel in a person’s heart is deep water; but a person of understanding draws it out.”

This verse stands out to me because it’s such a perfect picture of coaching. Every person you meet is carrying something deep- wisdom, clarity, answers- that they may not even realize is there. But it takes skill, patience, and the right questions to draw it out. That’s what a trained coach does. It’s not about telling people what to do, it’s about helping them uncover what God has already placed inside them. And that’s why training matters. Because the better you are at drawing it out, the more transformation you’ll see in their lives.

Maybe you’ve been the go-to person in your family, your church, or your friend group for years.

People come to you because you’re a safe place. You care. You listen.

And maybe, just like me at that kitchen table, you can already see the next step someone needs to take.

But if you’ve ever walked away wondering if you really helped… that’s where becoming a trained, Sterling & Stone certified Christian Life Coach changes everything.

In this Training and Certification, I don’t just hand you a title or a piece of paper.

I train you in a proven, faith-based framework called The PEARL Practice that helps you coach anyone, in any situation, with confidence and clarity.

It’s a framework you can trust to hold your client’s story, guide them through change, and keep both of you on track toward the results they want and the legacy they’re building.

If you’ve been feeling that nudge that says, "This is what I made you to do," I want you to take the next step.

Click here to read about the Christian Life Coach Certification pathway.

You’ll see how the training works, what you’ll learn, and how you can start using your God-given gifts in a way that’s intentional, effective, and sustainable.

You don’t have to wait until you “feel ready.”

The goal is to be willing to experiment without expectation and take imperfect action.

You know, the kind of action that says “I don’t need to be fit before I go to the gym.”

You can start preparing now to be the coach you were born to be, because the world doesn’t only need more good listeners. It needs trained guides who can help people change their lives. People are looking for hope and they are looking for help. Imagine what it would be like to be someone who knows how to help and how to offer it so people know you’re the right guide for them. It will change everything, for both of you.

Reader Challenge: 

Think of one recent conversation where you wished you could have helped more. Imagine how it might have gone if you had a proven framework to help and a way to communicate it. Write down what would have been different.