How to Know if You’re Called to Coach

Let me start this one with a question that might be sitting quietly in your heart already:

“How do I know if I’m called to coach?”

If that question has been circling in your head, showing up in conversations, or whispering to you during quiet moments—you’re not alone.

So many women feel that same nudge, but they don’t know what to do with it. They doubt their qualifications. They worry about what others will think. They tell themselves they need more time, more training, more proof.

But what if the evidence is already there?

See, a coaching call doesn’t usually show up like a billboard or an angel with a clipboard. It shows up as a question. A longing. A restlessness that won’t go away. A stirring that says: “I think there’s more.”

And here’s what I’ve seen again and again: women who are already coaching- they just don’t call it that yet.

They’re the ones people go to when life feels heavy or confusing. They’re the ones who ask the deeper questions. They’re the ones who can sit in the middle of someone else’s pain or process without rushing to fix it.

Sound familiar?

Maybe you’re already mentoring. Already listening. Already guiding friends or coworkers or women in your church. And the thought of turning that into something official- of honoring the gift you carry- feels exciting and terrifying all at once.

So how do you know if it’s a calling?

Here are some signs to pay attention to:

1. People open up to you easily.

   Even strangers feel safe around you. They tell you things they didn’t plan to say, and you find yourself listening with deep care.

2. You can sit in the messy middle.

   You don’t need to have all the answers. You’re okay walking with someone through uncertainty or transition.

3. You notice patterns.

   You often see what’s beneath the story someone is telling. You catch the meaning, the emotion, the need that’s unspoken.

4. You feel alive when you help someone grow.

   It’s not about being needed—it’s about seeing someone become more of who they are. That lights something up in you.

5. You’ve walked through hard things and found meaning in them.

   You’re not perfect, but you’ve learned how to process your own story—and now you want to help others do the same.

   
   

And maybe the biggest one of all?

You can’t stop thinking about it!

Even if you’ve dismissed it. Even if it feels unrealistic. Even if you’re afraid—it keeps coming back. That’s often how God speaks. Through a repeated invitation. Through a quiet, persistent nudge that says: This might be for you. This might be yours to carry.

Now, let me be clear: You don’t have to quit your job tomorrow. You don’t have to announce anything to the world. But you can begin listening. You can start exploring. You can say yes to the next small step.

This week, I want you to try something:

Look back on the last 3 times someone sincerely thanked you for something. Not just a quick “thanks,” but a moment where you really made a difference. What did they thank you for? What were you doing? What qualities were you bringing to the table?

That might be your coaching call in disguise.

And if what I’ve shared today feels like it’s putting words to something inside you—maybe that’s your answer.

Maybe you are called to coach.

And if so? I’d be honored to walk with you.

I want you to know-

You don’t need a title to be who you already are. You don’t need permission to begin. You just need to say yes to what’s been there all along.

Reader Challenge: Write down the last 3 times someone thanked you for something meaningful. What did you do? How did you show up? What pattern do you see?